Safe. Sane. Consensual.

These three little words are the bedrock of any BDSM play relationship.

BDSM is all about trust and respect. Done right, BDSM players feel loved, cared for, respected and fulfilled. Unfortunately, just as in every relationship, there can be trouble when one party doesn’t play by the rules of Safe, Sane and Consensual. If you’re feeling unsafe or are in an abusive relationship, please know that abuse is NOT a part of healthy BSDM play. Please take steps to remove yourself from an abusive relationship. Here are some links and phone numbers for you to find help and support.

Hotlines & Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline USA

Domestic violence hotlines in every State USA

Family Violence Prevention Fund USA

Hidden Hurt – Domestic Abuse Information For Residents of the UNITED KINGDOM Hotline numbers AROUND THE WORLD
Also includes abuse information in 40 languages

Womens Refuges NEW ZEALAND

Domestic Violence Hotlines and Resources USA

RAINN – Rape Abuse and Incest National Network, USA

CALCASA California Coalition Against Sexual Assalt, USA

Domestic Violence Survival Kit USA This site is devoted to helping end all forms of family violence and to providing information about services that are available to families that are in need of assistance

Violence Against Women Office USA Sign the wall of the abused, resources, divorce
information and more… USA

Safety Zone Provides resources and information.
Also addition resources in New York State. USA

Online Domestic Violence Agencies

Safe At Home program.
This is a no-cost mail forwarding service designed to help
victims of domestic violence and stalking keep their new
addresses confidential (USA -California).